Farewell, Roney “Mac”(aroney) McDaniel

Some relationships last a pretty long time, but when I first spoke with the man who would be so instrumental in my life and less directly those of my family, I really didn’t know what to think.  At first, I came to think of him as Papa Smurf, but while he had the stature, he just couldn’t pull off the blue skin tones.
One of my coworkers, who came to this job specifically because Mac was the Program Manager, called him Macaroney which in many ways is more fitting.  Sometimes in life you manage to fall into things and my job at the Defense Commissary Agency (DeCA) at Fort Lee is just one of those things.
I remember pretty clearly how this nearly 14-year started. I was working as a teacher in Mecklenburg County, 99 mile one-way commute, when I got the call, literally.  It came by cell phone from one of the head hunter people I used to have to rely on for jobs when I worked as a technical writer.  Lyla called me one afternoon in late September of my second year “on the job” as police call their work, which isn’t really much different than teaching.
“Hi Lyla; it’s been a while.”
“Hi David. There’s a job in Fort Lee that I think you would fit you perfectly.”
I thought for a minute, ‘where the heck were you last year.’
“I’m working on my five-year plan here,” I told her. “It would have to be something that has some longevity, because I can’t leave this for a six-month project.”
“Well, they are in their first year, with four option years.  Why don’t you call the PM and just talk to him?”
“Okay, I think that’s good enough to listen to anyway.”
That afternoon I had my first contact with Mac.  On the phone, I explained stuff about me and what I do and who I had done it for.  At first I thought all that jibber jabber impressed him, because he asked me to come by Friday for “The Grand Tour.” And I did so.
The truly ironic thing, a teaching point for someone out there I am sure, is that I had been trying to get a job at DeCA for ages.  But, at the time, my skill set didn’t seem to have a place within DeCA’s employee base. After all, who really needs a technical writer anyway? (By the way, we now have two in my department alone.)
That’s what led up to my first meeting with Mac. We “hooked up” at Denny’s and drove onto Fort Lee, that great shining job Mecca. It was hard to believe that I was within days of completing the final steps to get a position at a place I had been seeking employment for at least 10 years.
Mac gave me the dog-and-pony tour, introducing me to people who I would be working with, and people who would become close friends over the ensuing years.  After the meetings, I had a feeling that I had hit at least two home runs in talking with the people who I would be reporting to.  I was hoping to get the job offer immediately, but Mac said he would contact me about the position.
That was October 8, 2004. Through the weekend, I was like an expectant father. I never got far from the phone and I just knew I would be getting a call.  Monday the 11^th was Columbus Day and still no contact.  Crap, I thought, maybe my home runs were strike outs. But as it is even in baseball, I got the call-up Tuesday morning.
“Can you start on the 25^th?”
I wrote and submitted my resignation from Mecklenburg County Public Schools that day and gave the letter to the assistant principal.  “You’re going to make more just in gas savings than we could afford to pay you.”
On the first day on the job, after we discussed the financial arrangements as a sub-contractor through Modis, we spoke for a few minutes.
“I just want to get someone in the job and not have to worry about it for four more years.”
It has been nearly 14, longer than some marriages.  And, as I learned from Mac over those years that building a team is really more like building a family.  At times, it’s sort of a Jenga thing, add a block-take away a block. Take away a wrong block or add a wrong block and you’re stuck with a bit of a mess.
Wednesday, we held a Retirement Party for Mac.  Lots of people showed up, free Nannie’s catering, which we did not advertise for fiscal reasons.
Yesterday, Mac closed up his shop at DeCA after 14 years and one month. He was the man who wrote the original contract for a company called Multimax.  And, Multimax morphed three times over the years, as another version of Multimax, Harris, and then nLogic, which holds the current contract.
The team has seen many parts come and go, but it has not changed much over that time. I still work on the same project, doing a slightly different job, thanks Mac. His replacement is on board, and we are attempting to move forward without the pilot who had been steering us for years.
Have a great retirement, Mac.  We will miss you and your wife, Edie, greatly.

Welcome to the fishbowl, David Hogg

Really, did David Hogg think his attempts at passive resistance regarding the Second Amendment come without trial?  Welcome to the big leagues, young man.

Out spoken people, right, wrong, or indifferent, need to understand that when you put your name in the fishbowl you become a target.  And so it is for David Hogg, who would like to rail like Martin Luther King, but is not willing to take the “medicine” that comes when you stand on the political stage.
So, when Dr. Laura Ingraham stated that he was a whiner, he was just getting what any other political opponent might get.  Is he a whiner? Simple answer, does he expect the public to just roll over for his cause?
Sorry, David, you jumped from high school wrestling to the World Wrestling Federation.  You want to argue like an adult and be treated like a child. “Oh, you really hurt my feelings with your name calling and bullying on the big stage,” he might as well have said.
The sad truth of the matter is that you are no longer a child.  You have opted to step into the real world of politics with one of the hottest constitutional arguments in ages. You are not, and no longer will be, treated like a child.  Welcome to the Jungle, or should I say Swamp.
In some respects, what the good Dr. commented on should be a shining badge of honor. You got her, and therefore public, attention.  Wear it.  Do you think her comment was bullying? Then, maybe you need to go home and cry in your pillow.
It wasn’t Laura Ingraham who laid down the gauntlet. No, no, it was you.  You decided to become someone’s spokesperson for the Anti-Gun movement. Or is that the Anti-pseudo-assault-rifle contingent.  My question for you is, where are you getting your funding? But, lest that might make you cry, I shall abstain.
You may try to claim that this is not civil disobedience, and to some extent you may be correct.  But it does harken to Civil Disobedience, and one of the main clauses in any form of Civil Disobedience also kind of fits with what you and yours are attempting. You have to be willing to accept what goes with the territory. To wit:

·   Jesus was crucified for his disobedience.  His death resulted in the books of the New Testament of the The Bible.

·    Henry David Thoreau spent time in jail for refusing to pay taxes. Yes, his mother bailed him out by paying them for him. But he wrote Civil Disobedience, which states that there are bad laws that ought to be ignored outright.

·    Adolf Hitler spent time in jail for the failed “Beer Hall Putsch,” where he wrote “Mein Kampf.”

·    Mahatma Ghandi was jailed and went on many hunger strikes. His book The Story of My Experiments with Truth is his autobiography.

·    Martin Luther King spent time in the Birmingham Jail for his freedom marches, have you read “A Letter from the Birmingham Jail?

·    David Hogg, fought against second amendment gun rights and then complained about being bullied and called a whiner. He wrote nothing.

So, Master Hogg, how does your movement stack up?

My best guess is that you will learn a great deal from this. You may in fact become a substantial human being who will grace the world with his presence, and knowledge, and foresight. All of that is probably within the realm of possibility.
But let me assure you of one thing. If you plan to extrapolate this into some kind of a career, grow a thicker skin.  Name calling and commenting and attacking you means nothing less than you are being successful. If you feel the need to whine about Dr. Ingraham’s whining comment, you just prove the point. If you want to be treated like an adult, then you really need to act like one.
Anything else is, well, whining.

Death of THE Salesman

For as long as I knew Terry Anderson he was obsessed with time.  Not time, like Dr. Brown from “Back to the Future,” it was more that he continually counted the days, hours, and minutes left in front of him.  I think it was the clock that drove him to be the kind of person I knew him to be.

 From the first day I met him, we were friends. For some time, while I was a reporter, we would spend a lot of days sitting together in his office and then going out for lunch.  Over that time, we developed scheme upon scheme on ways to make enough money to supply us with enough cash to retire.

 We never really got anywhere with those ideas, but it was food for the processors that were our minds.  Often, Terry would come up with some idea, where our “earnings” were very small, but the extrapolation over a large number of sources was huge.  If we could make a nickel on every one of these widgets and then get half the universe to purchase them at these very affordable prices we could retire next week.

 Pipe dreams, really.  Things to keep a mind active even when there wasn’t much other mental fodder around.

 It probably helped that he was a fellow New Yorker.  We never seemed to miss a thing during our discussions on how to make our lives better, and consequently, the lives of our families.

 And it was our families that drove each of us.  And, it seemed that over time that 30 minute drive to see Terry got longer and longer, as my personal life started getting busier and busier.  And I sit here at this computer and think of that Robert Frost poem, “The Road not Taken”, and I think of that one line that sort of exemplifies what happened to us:  “Yet knowing how way leads on to way”.

 I like to think that our friendship never wavered. I wish, now more than ever, that I would have taken the time on my trips to the Endocrinologist’s office to stop by and say “hello” and just touch base with my old pal. But that is what happens, just as Frost says, way leads on to way, and we don’t have or take the time to change our steps.

 We get wrapped up in our kids and wrapped up trying to eke out a living that is more than just paying the bills.  We stop dreaming of short cuts, and quick fixes, and how we might be able to bend the financial world even just a little bit, to help us on our personal trek.

 And then things start to happen.  I never realized how bad things were going for my friend.  I heard some snippets and some news, but it always seemed to be far off and like we had an eternity to pull back together and to share notes and laugh like we did back in the early ‘90s.

 The last time I remember seeing Terry he had come to watch my son play football against Midlothian High School.  It was a cold and very blustery night.  We huddled together, trying to find solace from the wind to no avail.

 It brought back to mind how Terry, one night when my car broke down around the corner from his house, came to our rescue.  My son, Geordie, the same football player he had come to see, had run face first into a strand of barbed wire.  He had a gash across his nose that would get four stitches, and we were stranded with a blown water pump.

 Terry arrived in the family minivan, looking for the world, and to us, like salvation.  He carried us to take home some boys who were with us, and then to the hospital where Geordie got a few stitches.  What kind of friend is that?  The very best kind.  I rue that I lost touch, especially as now I can never make that contact again.

 And so it goes, unfortunately, much as Frost said, “Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and being one traveler, long I stood” and perhaps too long.  Good bye Terry, my friend.